Love is a wonderful feeling if it arose for a real man who appreciates and understands how lucky he is to meet the one who makes him happy. Unfortunately, this feeling is often accompanied by pain, tears and disappointment, which can disrupt the normal course of life. And the reason for everything is often men who do not know how to be faithful, love one woman and they always want variety, in a word, womanizers. And the saddest thing is that such a subject is difficult to recognize in time. But those who have suffered from it, as well as those who are afraid of what it will meet along the way, should not despair. There is always a way to protect yourself from unnecessary worries.
Qualities of a womanizer
If you pay attention to age, then a too young womanizer is under the control of hormones and the desire to raise self-esteem among representatives of his sex in such a cruel way. Hormones make him “let his feathers down” at the sight of any girl; he wants to conquer her, conquer her, prove how cool and beautiful he is. He is always surrounded by a large number of representatives of the fair sex, because he knows how to present himself, knows how to turn his head, what to say. He doesn't get lost, and he always has a whole bunch of witty jokes. Such behavior in girls' heads is associated with self-confidence, which automatically turns him into a real man with whom you want to be close. After all, he understands her so much and will always find words that will give her pleasure.
It never occurs to anyone that his behavior is not based on self-confidence, but on the fact that he does not have serious feelings for anyone. Anyone who really likes a girl or is in love with her will only restore his self-confidence after some time, and only if they are already together. Because strong emotions make any person feel the fear of seeming stupid and clumsy. His words and actions become awkward. He turns into a shy young man, although previously he could be the soul of the campaign and the leader. Because of this, from the outside it is easy to notice someone who is in love.
Anyone who feels exclusively the desire to satisfy his own needs and be with as many girls as possible does not experience difficulties during communication and courtship. He calmly chooses a strategy to conquer the one that somehow attracted him. In some cases, he experiences feelings, but they are shallow and fleeting, which does not stop him from saying a lot of compliments, singing serenades and reciting poems.
Some womanizing guys, even when they become adults, do not change themselves and continue to win new girls, and then women, in the same way. It is their ability to speak, say a bunch of compliments, look after beautifully and talk about a wonderful future together that should alert you. Of course, there are men who are really so confident in themselves and have fallen in love so much that they are ready to do anything for their chosen one to say yes. They need to compose poems for her and sing a serenade.
Therefore, before you draw conclusions and, especially, fall in love, imagining how you live together, a wedding, etc., find out about his past. If he is a womanizer, then all his friends and colleagues know about it. And when using social networks, such loving men rarely clear their pages of photographs of their exes and the places where they were and performed their “exploits.”
True, some ladies can tell anything about him out of envy, but here listen to intuition and logic. The words of others should not be the main criterion when making such a difficult decision as whether to build a relationship with a man or not, but just a signal to pay closer attention to him, and not just listen to poetry and enjoy a stormy courtship.
When he is married and at the same time changes lovers at the speed of sound, you are definitely a womanizer. And you will become his next victim. In general, there is no need to waste time on busy men, even when they are not womanizers. And even more so for such comrades with a bunch of complexes. Why do this while waiting for him to divorce his wife. The world definitely didn’t hit him like a wedge; there are many beautiful and free men around who can be wonderful husbands.
If you were both struck true love- anything can happen in life - remember, the one who loves himself will always choose himself, and will not tolerate what does not suit him. Therefore, he will tell his beloved that he loves him very much and is ready to wait for some certain time until he makes a decision and gets divorced, but now he will no longer maintain any relationship.
Anyone who really needs a woman will file for divorce so as not to miss out on love. And even if his wife is sick, he can help her with money by hiring a nurse, and without trying to sit on two chairs at the same time. Moreover, as life experience shows, wives usually turn out to be very healthy. True, a womanizer can easily leave his wife and continue searching for new adventures, now with you as his wife. But here, as they say, until the love for him passes, nothing will change, since knowing that you are not his first lover, you decided to be with him. When you didn’t know about it, and your love for him is very strong, you will have to either accept it or leave. It is impossible to correct him; too deep internal problems turned him into what he became.
In any case, the decision to put a pause in a relationship with a married man so that he makes up his mind gives a chance that he will choose you, or you will be freed from feelings that do not allow you to improve your personal life. Besides, he may not turn out to be a womanizer; there are not many of them.
How to make a womanizer fall in love with you
Before looking for a solution on how to make a man who loves women so much fall in love with you, it is worth determining what type he belongs to. The entire success of the planned enterprise depends on this. Moreover, this knowledge will allow us to once again assess the entire risk.
Some men change women so often because they suffer from low self-esteem. They may not know about it, but subconsciously they feel a little better than usual when the number of conquered beauties goes off scale. If you can hint to him about the real reason for his behavior, and at the same time he decides that it’s time to change something in life, you have a chance to build a strong and long-lasting relationship with him. However, be prepared that he will need serious support and long-term communication with a psychologist. His passion for women can also be channeled into areas such as his career. Achievements in this area will give him the much-needed feeling that he is doing great. And the period of calm or failure is compensated by the support and unconditional acceptance of the wife, who so selflessly decided to make the womanizer fall in love with her. Since now it helps him become a self-confident person who no longer needs to confirm his masculinity with the help of a huge number of passions.
Another type of womanizer is those who are not sure that they are able to fully satisfy a woman. Here the task of falling in love with and keeping such a man is more difficult. Because not every woman is so obsessed with sex and is ready to constantly tell him what a wonderful lover he is, especially if it is far from the truth. The solution to the problem lies in communicating with a specialist and carefully studying the available techniques that will allow him to please his partner with such strength that he will involuntarily believe in himself and his strength.
The most difficult are the so-called intimophobes - people who are terribly afraid of close relationships, and this fear has become so ingrained with them that at the slightest suspicion that they want to be tied to them or invade their personal space, they disappear at the speed of sound.
The development of a relationship with a womanizer depends on what type they belong to. And the woman’s task is to choose the right path to win his heart, or to abandon him altogether. Since it is almost impossible to force intimate phobes to get married, and if this happens, then family life will be similar to the life of neighbors, as well as any relationship with them, filled with mistrust and the constant need to monitor and educate.
It is important to understand that a womanizer is a skilled manipulator, and you can’t do anything against it. Except for one thing: the principle “the best defense is attack” always works, it is reliable. Therefore, remember his pain points: pride, vanity, confidence in your own irresistibility. And there is no need to gently tap on these points. Take the metaphorical shovel and hit it hard. And don’t be afraid to ruin everything: if you don’t put a spoke in the womanizer’s wheel at the very start, he will accelerate and whistle past you. Orevoir, goodbye, ciao!
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Womanizers divide all women into two categories: “will give right away” and “will never give.” You shouldn't fall into any of them, because none is better. Both are worse. The lesser evil, perhaps, is to be one of those who “will never give” - in this case, the womanizer will disappear into the fog quickly enough, without having time to leave a legacy in your life. But you need a different result. Therefore, advances will have to be given out, but the onslaught must be resisted. How? Good question. The “don’t shave your legs” option doesn’t work, that’s a fact. Grow zen and repeat the mantra “it’s better to lose a day, then fly in five minutes.”
Be careful in the intimate area
Have you ever walked through a closed glass door? If yes, then you understand perfectly well how women fall in love with womanizers: she walked, walked, and then - bam! — fell, woke up, butterflies in my stomach. Hurt the whole young lady. That is, even before the first kiss, a woman manages to convince herself that a womanizer is her fatal passion, destiny and eternal love. Therefore, she is preparing for the first sex; imagine, she is almost rehearsing it. Hoping to surprise him with something, naive. And the womanizer, oddly enough, is tired of it: bed tricks are good in a certain dosage. So don’t arrange for him to retell the Kama Sutra in pantomime - firstly, he won’t appreciate it, and secondly, it will give you away completely. Womanizers do not fall in love with women in love, this is such a law of the universe.
Don't feed his ego
By the age of 30, the average womanizer develops such a swollen sense of self-importance that it prevents him from walking. Your task is not to feed this monstrous growth with your own vitality, but, on the contrary, to slightly shorten it. Knock him down! A womanizer must regularly receive rebuff on any issue; this disorients him, on the one hand, and on the other, makes him become attached to you. Pull him out of his comfort zone by the collar, and his curiosity will do the rest.
Don't let him trespass
You are not his property. Let him notch it on his beautiful nose. This is a trap as old as time: you want to conquer the unapproachable, it’s a fact. Actually, that’s why you also decided to make a womanizer fall in love with you, right?
Don't try to be "different"
He has seen more of these “not like that” than you can imagine. Besides, you still won’t be able to pretend for a long time to be someone you really are not. So leave this one-actress theater for some less complicated occasion. For a handsome guy, for example.
Be prepared for the consequences
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Are you a beautiful and sweet girl who dreams of meeting a worthy man, having children with him, a dog and buying a house with a beautiful lawn, but you fell in love with a real heartthrob and now you don’t know what to do? Don’t despair, experienced sexologists and psychologists at the Secrets center know how to help you.
Trainer-expert at the Center for Family and Sexuality Education Secrets Oksana Aleksandrova:
My opinion is that womanizers and pick-up artists cannot be changed or remade. This lifestyle comes from complexes, from self-doubt. Various psychological traumas also take their toll. All this, as a rule, is laid down in adolescence. They cannot build a mature relationship with one partner, because in such a relationship, like it or not, they will have to go deeper and pick at old wounds. And such men are very superficial and cowardly for the most part. It is almost impossible to fall in love with and keep such comrades, especially if there was intimacy.
However, it happens that you cannot command your heart - love is evil! It must be said that girls with experience will clearly not be at a loss when faced with a pick-up artist. They will certainly find something to answer to sharp jokes and how to stir up his interest in themselves. But what about girls who don’t know how to play these games, but are accustomed to naively trusting men? If you belong to the second type, then you have probably already fallen in love, because it will not be difficult for a womanizer to seduce you on the first date. In the case when you are already in deep trouble, it is important not to mess things up, but to correctly calculate all further moves.
First, let's figure out what to do if you're already in love and he's not.
It is worth understanding that a woman lives by emotions, feelings and therefore falls in love faster, especially if she has had past negative experiences. Imagine that suddenly a man appeared who stood out sharply among previous partners, especially if the woman cannot boast male attention. In this case, feelings appear at lightning speed.
Knowledge male psychology will help you avoid many mistakes and unnecessary disappointments. Firstly, men take much longer to mature for serious relationships. As in the joke: “Dima said “hello,” and Katya mentally got married and gave birth to three children.”
If this has already happened, then at the first stage of the relationship it is, of course, worth demonstrating your interest in his person, but unobtrusively, playfully. You need to give him the green light for further courtship, but continue to remain unavailable.
We also don’t forget that men are all a little slow, so we stock up on patience and calmly wait for him further actions and we support any activity on the part of the man, but we ourselves do not show the initiative. And even more so, we don’t bother him with calls and SMS.
He is confident that he is in control of the situation! The game follows his rules - a “break in the pattern” is needed.
There is a very subtle point here. He is used to everything happening according to a well-established plan that works on absolutely all naive girls. But you are not like that, you are already several moves ahead of him and should be able to predict his actions.
Analyze how your relationship is developing, according to what scenario, and then play along, but don’t play around. Loosen your grip or willingness to meet him on the first call. Rock him with emotions, become unpredictable so that he doesn’t understand what to expect from you next. This will make your ladies' man focus only on you.
What to do with competitors?
There will always be competitors - and every year they become more beautiful and younger. You can put your whole life and energy into fighting them, or you can focus on yourself - taking care of yourself, developing your feminine qualities, expanding your horizons. After all, the outer shell attracts only at first glance, and a man only stays with that woman who represents something of herself as a person, as a woman (in terms of internal qualities). The most important thing is to become needed by a man. And here it is important to be frank with yourself and answer the question: “What can I give a man besides beautiful eyes, what is my value?”
How long should you wait to have intimacy? There may be an option that intimacy has already happened, in which case his interest is most likely at zero (if he is a collector).
If you don’t want to lose him once and for all, don’t even think about going to bed with him ahead of time! Delay intimacy as long as possible. From time immemorial, a man fought for a woman’s heart, performed feats in her honor, seeking her respect and favor. What is easily obtained is of little value. Therefore, give men space for exploits, for masculine actions, and do not simply believe words. If intimacy has already happened and interest has faded, nothing can correct this, especially if he is a collector. The only advice is to draw a conclusion and move on without stepping on the same rake.
It would seem that what could be more banal than an affair with a womanizer. Everyone knows that it doesn't end well. A homegrown Casanova will remain a Casanova, and you will have memories, and not all of them will be pleasant. Nevertheless, an affair with a womanizer is in the love biography of almost every woman. And for some it takes years to finally part with it. Why? Because a womanizer has a lot of methods and rules in his arsenal to keep the women he is interested in around him, cleverly manipulating their feelings. Let's look at them together.
Womanizer Rules No. 1 - How it all begins
Womanizers, like no one else, know how to make acquaintances casually and look after beautifully. A man with serious intentions cannot put two words together, and on dates he makes mistakes one after another. The womanizer works delicately, he has a refined technique. Moreover, at the moment of acquaintance he really falls in love with the object. And his eyes sparkle. This is exactly what most women “buy” into. And then the extravaganza of the candy-bouquet period begins.
It’s hard to say at what point you will understand that you are not alone, but one of many. The calls will most likely come immediately. You simply won’t notice them, attributing them to the fact that he is very sociable and knows how to find common language with women, so they are drawn to him. Besides this interesting man, of course, cannot remain without female attention. At first it flatters you. After all, out of everyone, he chose you.
Womanizer Rules #2 - What Happens Then
Further events can develop according to a variety of scenarios. You may even turn out to be his legal wife. And your personal story will begin with strange calls at two in the morning, lipstick marks on your shirt, visits from his ladies demanding a divorce. And here it all depends on your patience.
If you caught him cheating for the first time and after that decided to give him a chance to reform, that’s normal. But if this happened the second and third time, and you continue to be with him, this is a matter of your personal choice and idea of what a relationship should be. However, women do this. They explain this simply: “I can’t give up on him, it seems to me that I love only him. I hope that sooner or later he will understand that I am the only one he needs and will not go anywhere else.”
Such a choice can also be pragmatic: “Yes, he is like that. I am aware of his adventures. But everything is fair. He only needs me to live. Everything else is temporary.”
There are also passionate bohemian novels in which everything was distorted, including ideas about love and fidelity.
Womanizer Rules No. 3 - What's holding you back
1. Firstly, himself. Womanizers, just like femme fatales, strive to maintain their own circle of “worship” around them. It is vital for them to keep everyone Katya, Mash and Svet on the hook from their phone. That is why he calls you with a certain frequency, each time causing you bewilderment and joy (he remembered me all the time and finally decided to call again!). In fact, he calls his girls almost in circles so that they don’t have time to forget him. He calls, comes with flowers and confessions, you have a great time, and then he disappears again.
At the same time, something important is sure to happen to him, and he will definitely return to you as soon as he finishes all his business. Although some don't explain anything at all. Family womanizers repent every time, promise to improve, etc. But at best, they become more cautious, and only if they really don’t want to leave the family.
2. Secondly, the illusion that he can change. And return him to the true path (i.e. to the path faithful husband And good father) you can do it. And let everyone around you burst with envy. This thought is so pleasing to your vanity that it usually somewhat overshadows the real picture. Plus, the womanizer himself seeks to support this dubious hope in you.
3. Thirdly, your own feelings for him. Until they pass. And they will not pass until you deal with the first two points.
Womanizer Rules #4 - How to Leave
1. Realize the fact that you are in a harem. One among many.
2. Stop entertaining yourself with the illusion that you are the main wife. And to think that being in this position is normal.
3. Start not just going on dates with other men, but also looking for advantages in them compared to him, and not disadvantages, as you did before.
4. Decide how you see your ideal relationship.
5. Talk through everything that worries you with a friend, mother, psychologist (choose the most comfortable option for yourself).
6. Don't respond to his attempts to get you back into the relationship. There is no need to stop contacts, you just need to behave neutrally, without leaving your intended positions.
A womanizer needs emotional support from you; if you don’t have it, he will gradually disappear from your field of vision.
Every self-respecting woman should understand that womanizers are good only as friends, or as sexual partners without obligations (but this option is not suitable for everyone, but only for emotionally stable women with a clear position on this issue, who are not prone to self-deception).
In order to know how to attract the attention of a womanizer, you must first figure out who a womanizer really is. Some believe that a womanizer lives in absolutely every man. Allegedly, every man has an insatiable appetite for the female sex. And everything can be explained by the fact that it’s just the nature of nature, because all men are polygamous. In fact, not all men can be called womanizers. There are several types of womanizers.
Types of womanizers
1. The first type includes those men who are very afraid to enter into a serious relationship with a woman. They are afraid of becoming attached to any woman and avoid any emotional experiences in every possible way. This fear of a serious relationship arises due to self-doubt, numerous doubts, and so on.
2. For the second type, the only thing you need from a relationship with a woman is sex. At the same time, he does not experience any special feelings for his partner. He doesn’t think about her feelings at all, isn’t afraid to offend and hurt her, and certainly doesn’t think about the prospects of their relationship. All that matters to him is the number of women he managed to get into bed. The more there are, the correspondingly higher his self-esteem, and the cooler he is in his opinion.
3. There is a type of womanizer who is the complete opposite of the previous type. Despite the fact that he can change women literally every week, he feels for each sincere feelings. He falls in love with every girl he has. However, his love does not last very long and does not have time to develop into a more serious and deep feeling. Does his relationship with a girl last exactly until another girl appears on his horizon? with whom he will fall in love.#4 ways to make married man be jealous#
4. Every person in life has been offended and betrayed by someone. But some people find the strength to forgive and move on without carrying this burden, while others fail to do so. So, this type of man, once greatly offended by a woman, made him suffer and suffer severe stress. Having failed to cope with the insult and hurt pride, such a man sets out to take revenge, but not at all on the woman who hurt him. He will take revenge on all women, trying to inflict the same pain that he experienced. In fact, this type of womanizer is the most dangerous for women. This is because the ending is known in advance and is unlikely to be changed. Such a man can easily gain confidence, after which he emotionally traumatizes the woman and then abandons her, thereby finishing off her already depressed state.
5. The last type is most adored by women. And all because a man of this type knows how to understand a woman and constantly admires her. He literally worships a woman. And naturally she herself begins to go crazy about this man. However, he is not at all ready to admire only one woman. And therefore he worships all women at once, without singling out any one of them.
Conquering the womanizer
Womanizers can be found quite often nowadays. They are usually witty, can easily make a girl laugh, have excellent eloquence and a charming appearance. Resisting such a man is not easy. In addition, every girl, having met a womanizer, hopes in her heart that she will become the one in his life for whom he will change and stop paying attention to other women. Of course this happens. But to do this you need to interest him, show him that you are not like everyone else. After all, there are plenty of beauties around him of the same type. Therefore, it is worth understanding in more detail how to win the attention of a womanizer.
1. First, of course, you need to get to know this man. It is worth noting that familiarity is sufficient important part relationships. If you are the initiator of acquaintance, then it is you, as they say, who set the rules of the game. Most likely, a womanizer will think quite the opposite, but this will only be a plus for you. Therefore, it is worth finding your mutual friends who can introduce you at some general party. But it is also worth carefully considering your own image. And it's not just about your appearance. In order to arouse the interest of a womanizer, you need to intrigue him a little, he must see you as a mystery. However, remember that this will only work when you get to know each other and when you communicate at the very beginning. To keep it you will have to work hard.
2. As you know, all men are hunters by nature. They like it when a woman needs to be wooed. Of course, they also like easier tasks, but they quickly get bored with them. While when he spends a lot of energy and time trying to achieve a woman, he no longer wants to quickly let her go and say goodbye to her. This is especially true for a womanizer. The girls practically don’t need to do anything to him and just hang around his neck.
Therefore, at first you should behave a little detached. You don't need to let him get close right away. Don't agree to go on a date with him right away. Then he will make more and more attempts to conquer you. But the mistake of many women is that they do not know where to stop and go too far. So it’s important to avoid this moment. Otherwise, he may simply get tired of knocking on a closed door to no avail, and he will find another one. So first you need to keep him in suspense for a while, then you need to give him some incentive so that he understands that it makes sense for him to continue trying to get your attention and then you can agree to go on a date with him.
3. There are always plenty of womanizers around beautiful girls who do not spare cosmetics and shorten dresses and skirts more and more. Of course, you should also look attractive, but at the same time, you should give preference to discreet natural makeup and modest beautiful outfits, which will not show all your charms combined. Remember that he has enough naked, painted girls. But, as you know, beauty alone is not enough. Therefore, you must show him that you are an intelligent, interesting person who has your own view of life and has your own opinion on everything, and not just a beautiful doll. He should be interested in you, you should have common topics of conversation.
4. As you know, womanizers end up in bed with the girl they want quite close. After which, communication practically disappears. He is simply adding to the list of his victories, and does not count on any serious relationship. But you want something completely different. You really need a serious relationship with him. Therefore, you should delay the moment of your intimacy as much as possible. long term. At least until the moment you realize that he is sincerely interested in you and may even be in love.
